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Can a yes be a no and a no be a yes?

This is a unique feature of Asian (and particularly Indian) that what is communicated may not necessarily be what is meant. This becomes even more complicated when combined with the expressions and body movement.

I have been utterly confused at times when the answer is yes but the head movement is from shoulder to shoulder which to my understanding depicts a no.

Is it because of subconscious disagreement or is there another issue that is linked to more social issues?

In any case, yes or no is also a function of the context of discussion. As is an old adage in Sanskrit मौन स्वीकृति लक्षणं (silence is an indicator of agreement). Is it a universally acceptable practice?

Psychologists, NLP specialists, please decipher for my benefit!

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  1. It is usually said that ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS.

    And so is the body language (shoulder & neck movement)compared to speech.

    And I think silence could be taken as an agreement or disagreement depending on the kind of person.

    A shy person's silent may be an agreement but for some one who is more open it may be in fact a dis agreement which cannot be expressed because of some fear, relationship between the two.

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